tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post111988873602165621..comments2024-02-25T06:21:32.931-04:00Comments on Ayatollah before but you never asked: Ostrich Timelizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03561251985369734074noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119986410542464082005-06-28T16:20:00.000-03:002005-06-28T16:20:00.000-03:00It is definately her loss.Unfortunately, she is mi...It is definately her loss.<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, she is missing out on what a wonderful person you are because she's too busy being negative. Some day, hopefully sooner than later, she realize what she's been doing and the time she's wasted. Some people either don't know how to be happy, or make others responsible for their happiness.<BR/><BR/>I have to agree with Mare on this one. And, I'm saying this as someone who has been in a similiar situation.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17219413178718425767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119971249927432322005-06-28T12:07:00.000-03:002005-06-28T12:07:00.000-03:00yeah, that sarcasm didn't come through at all. ha...yeah, that sarcasm didn't come through at all. had me worried for a second there, though i am relieved to see your sense of humour remains intact.marehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13949958243005755477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119968242716329542005-06-28T11:17:00.000-03:002005-06-28T11:17:00.000-03:00OMG.i'm sorry, i didnt realize you and your mom we...OMG.<BR/>i'm sorry, i didnt realize you and your mom were at odds. Maybe if i would slow down and read slower i would have seen that in your post.<BR/>I too have been at odds with my folks since i was able to say,<BR/>"daddy don't"... "mommy don't".<BR/>But after the death of my dad and now the sickness of my mom i try to be the one to offer the olive branch.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119964285856333052005-06-28T10:11:00.000-03:002005-06-28T10:11:00.000-03:00p.s. that comment about me having made a mess of m...p.s. that comment about me having made a mess of my life, etc. was sarcastic, I guess that tone didn't come through well enough.lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03561251985369734074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119964149359342782005-06-28T10:09:00.000-03:002005-06-28T10:09:00.000-03:00I agree with your sentiment, Peto, but you don't k...I agree with your sentiment, Peto, but you don't know my mother. If I called her, she'd screen my call, hang up on me, or just repeat back to me what she thinks of me. She needs to change before we can have any kind of relationship. She also needs to change in order to move forward with her own life.lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03561251985369734074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119963506284391832005-06-28T09:58:00.000-03:002005-06-28T09:58:00.000-03:00Under normal circumstances, Pete, I'd agree with y...Under normal circumstances, Pete, I'd agree with you that we should thank those who helped us get to where we are, but this one... well... I really think it's just one of those situations that makes ya stronger to walk away from until the other person gets some sort of a clue. Trying to continue just brings more hurt.<BR/><BR/>Power to ya, Liz, for doing what was needed for you to grow and move forward. I only pray that someday your mom will realize just how much her words and actions have cost her in this world. And also that she alone is responsible for her words and actions - not what someone has said or done to her.Cynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09848633916576337284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119940129502757102005-06-28T03:28:00.000-03:002005-06-28T03:28:00.000-03:00You have not made a mess of your life. from readin...You have not made a mess of your life. from reading your blog i would say you have "it" put together pretty darn good :-)<BR/>I , on the other hand, feel like I've destroyed my life. It would be easy for me to say it was this persons fault, or, my parents fault, but, No, it was all mine. So, call your mom and tell her "thanks" for everything she has taught you. :-)<BR/>*reflects on the past*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119922192640477692005-06-27T22:29:00.000-03:002005-06-27T22:29:00.000-03:00While I hate to see someone going down a path I kn...While I hate to see someone going down a path I know all too well, at some point you have to live for you and ignore what members of your family say or do.<BR/><BR/>Just because you love them doesn't mean you have to like them.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17493644294458801139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119921094591785472005-06-27T22:11:00.001-03:002005-06-27T22:11:00.001-03:00ps you rock and you know it. don't be so hard on ...ps you rock and you know it. don't be so hard on yourself.marehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13949958243005755477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119921070159896842005-06-27T22:11:00.000-03:002005-06-27T22:11:00.000-03:00may i start by saying that she's reliving enough o...may i start by saying that she's reliving enough of the past for both of you, don't you start with that now too?<BR/><BR/>you make the best decisions you can, the decisions that are right for you. i think it's time you adopt the lizzie bennett approach to life - act in such a way so as to constitute your own happiness, without reference to her or any other person so wholly unconnected with yourself.<BR/><BR/>not that she's unconnected, i know, but she's choosing to be and i think it's time you let her... for your own sanity. she'll come back, or she won't. you can't make that decision for her, and you shouldn't feel guilty that she isn't ready, for whatever reasons, to make that choice.marehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13949958243005755477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119915289326794702005-06-27T20:34:00.000-03:002005-06-27T20:34:00.000-03:00The expectations of parents can never be fully met...The expectations of parents can never be fully met. You just have to hope that at some point they will be able to accept that you are doing your best.<BR/><BR/>From everything I've read your Mom should consider herself lucky, but you can't help people who insist that the world is B&W. A little secret ... it turns out that the world has many other wonderful shades that are closed off to a B&Wer.Chris Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13895040540265230517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119911834330165722005-06-27T19:37:00.000-03:002005-06-27T19:37:00.000-03:00This is precisely how my parents are... when I'm u...This is precisely how my parents are... when I'm useful to them in a way that makes them look good then all of a sudden I'm their wonderful successful and bright daughter. But if the situation doesn't allow them to show off (ie anytime we're not in public) then the answer is well whatever. <BR/><BR/>Similar in high school for me as well. High honours, but the marks that were less than A or A+ were commented as to "Why didn't you do better in those courses?" A- classes weren't good enough. Sigh.<BR/><BR/>I don't think they'll ever learn. Sadly I think a good chunk of our parents' generation lives vicariously through ours in a much larger way than any previous generation. When we don't accomplish what they wanted to for their life they see themselves as a failure and dealing with us reminds them of that failure so it's easier to just treat us like crap on those occasions. BUT! When we've done something fantastic that they can spout off to the world to make themselves feel better then wahoo we're golden.Cynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09848633916576337284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10690467.post-1119908427486450982005-06-27T18:40:00.000-03:002005-06-27T18:40:00.000-03:00Your mother doesn't realize what a wonderful, succ...Your mother doesn't realize what a wonderful, successful daughter she has!!!! Your are kind, very intelligent (you kicked my ass in university), loyal parishner (not many people our age are), always ready to help anyone in need, a wonderful hostess, and... you are a great belly dancer!!!! <BR/><BR/>After having lost my mother, I can only think that it is twice as hard for you. You see her every week and realize that she isn't there for you or your brothers. <BR/><BR/>Hopefully, a bolt of wisdom and insight will hit her and she will realize what she has, instead of what she doesn't have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com