Monday, July 25, 2005

So the time has come

My mother wrote me this afternoon. Misses me and wants to communicate.

I will write her back. Should be interesting. I'd like to repair our relationship, but she has to have made or be willing to make some changes before I will get involved again.

We shall see.

14 comments:

Cyn said...

Although skeptical 'cause of my own experiences, I do have my fingers crossed for ya. Here's hoping she's come to her senses.

John said...

I'd love to have my dad say that to me.

But I understand your caution. Once bitten and twice shy and all that.

Shawn said...

Good luck Liz. Like Cyn I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Lisa said...

*crosses fingers* I hope it works out for you, but I can understand why you don't want to get your hopes up. One day at a time...

mare said...

i think you should just not answer, personally. but then, it's not my mom. i will cross my fingers for you (and listen when it inevitably goes bad again).

Rosyphant said...

Way to be positive, mare. While we may not always enjoy how our family acts, bottom line is that they are family. And if she's making the first step, then I see nothing wrong in meeting her halfway.

scum said...

I have a feeling Mare may be just a tad more jaded than the rest of us. :)

I have no idea what it's like. Mom and I just seem to get along.

pete said...

Liz, i know you get a twitch when i comment here ;-) but, i honestly hope you and you're mom work things out. Try your best to stay positive and patient. Every human has faults... it is difficult sometimes to look past someones faults, but, she is your mom, and she will not be here forever, so, try to remain hopeful for a positive outcome. My mom is not perfect, but, I love her and I know she loves me. I am sure your mom loves you so much. :-)

Cyn said...

I understand your sentiments Mare and actually that's my first instinct with this and also with my own family. But at the same time... they are family... who else do I really have in the world? I always feel a sense of obligation no matter how crappy my family has treated me to at least meet them halfway and give it a try. Who knows... the one time that I didn't answer might actually be the one time that they're sincere about trying to change their ways.

Joanne said...

I will continue to pray for you both. I really do hope that she HAS changed.

mare said...

hey, that's why i'm crossing my fingers. i don't think of it so much as jaded, as pragmatic at this point.

and i mean, who knows, maybe she's getting professional help. that'd be great. but i doubt it. and it's all the same pattern, the same cycle. if she's out of it, fantastic. i will be there with a hearty woo-hoo. but the odds are against it at this point.

i realize that it's liz's mother and that she is in a difficult situation here, jenn. but i am also recognizing the cycle, that's all i'm saying. i don't think it's wrong to look at this with a bit of suspicion given past patterns.

Scott M. said...

Respect is a two way street.

Scott Thomas said...

Family is a six way street, with two overpasses and a mini-mall right next to it, and lots of faded yield signs. What Im trying to say is, don't jaywalk. I think you get the message.

Seriously, watch out for that romantic traffic..uh huh. Do do do do do do...romantic traffic. Where was I? Oh yeah, the mini-mall.

Great to see you at JC. Now youve seen me eat muffins at your place and scenery at another place. Glad to hear you will be seeing Midsummer. MST night soon - lets make it happen. Wait a minute, Im one to talk. Im usually the one with the complex scheduling arrangements. Still it would be so cool to kick back to mike and the bots for a few hours.

KC said...

Good luck, Liz!

Hope and 'don't get your hopes up' aren't always mutually exclusive, right? I recommend a healthy dose of both.

Good for you for listening, and also good for you for standing by your convictions. If/when your ma pulls the same ol' stuff, you can always re-evaluate.

Pullin' for ya!

Kelly